The Conflict Instinct

Why You Say "It's Fine" When It Isn't

von Jordan Ellis

156 Seiten, Taschenbuch

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In *The Conflict Instinct*, author Jordan Ellis maps the appeasement reflex - the automatic pattern thatconverts a two-minute honest conversation into sixteen weeks of silent resentment, a disagreement aboutholiday plans into seventy years of burnt sugar as your only permitted rebellion.Ellis demonstrates that chronic conflict-avoidance doesn't prevent friction - it transforms addressabledisagreements into unaddressable grudges. The work colleague whose mistakes go unmentioned until theentire project collapses. The boundary never drawn until the friendship ends without explanation. The small"yes" that locks you into years of quiet scorekeeping.Readers will discover: - Why the right moment to speak up shrinks by the hour, and why "I'll say something next time" is apromise you won't keep- The hidden scorekeeping system that activates the moment you silence a legitimate concern- How "it's fine" functions as a loan with compounding interest - relief now, resentment later- The three-sentence pattern that replaces appeasement with honest disagreement without becomingcombative- Why burnt sugar, forgotten groceries, and small acts of sabotage replace the conversations you refuse tohave- The fifteen-second window when a boundary still feels negotiable - and what happens after it closes*The Conflict Instinct* provides a field-tested framework for recognizing when appeasement has replacedhonesty, and the specific steps to reset the pattern before the original issue becomes unsalvageable.

• ISBN: 9781804281697
• Sprache: Englisch
• Erscheinungsdatum: 07.09.2026
• Größe: 229 x 152 mm
• Verlag: Readers First Publishing Ltd