The Secrecy Instinct

Why We Hide Money From the People We Love Most

von Jordan Ellis

222 Seiten, Hardcover

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Do you round down the cost of a coffee when your partner asks? Do you keep a private account "just in case"? Have you ever given a fast, reassuring answer about a bill you haven't actually checked? In The Secrecy Instinct: Why We Hide Money From the People We Love Most, Jordan Ellis reveals that financial secrecy isn't about dishonesty-it's an ancient protective reflex misfiring in our most intimate relationships. We don't hide money to deceive; we hide it to protect our identities, our sense of responsibility, and our self-worth. Drawing on behavioral economics, psychology, and family systems theory, Ellis dismantles the deep-rooted taboo of money in relationships. This guide explores eight common patterns of financial concealment, including:The numbers you reflexively round down to protect a "responsible" image.The private accounts built as exit-insurance for relationships you have no intention of leaving.The unopened bills you ignore to avoid cognitive dissonance.The silent, mental ledgers you keep instead of asking for a fair split.The unspoken generational rules surrounding family inheritances.Rather than offering rigid budgeting templates or demanding total transparency, this book provides the tools to recognize your own threat-assessment machinery. By understanding why we hide, we can finally stop treating our loved ones like auditors and start dismantling the exhausting vigilance of secrecy.

• Themen: Gesellschaft und Sozialwissenschaften Psychologie
• ISBN: 9781804284810
• Sprache: Englisch
• Erscheinungsdatum: 25.07.2026
• Größe: 235 x 157 mm
• Verlag: Readers First Publishing LTD