Don't negotiate with yourself

Discipline for Doing What You Have to Do, Even When You Don't Want To

von Abelardo Alvarado Alcántara

132 Seiten, Taschenbuch

Kurzbeschreibung des Verlags

You don't have a discipline problem. You have a motivation problem - and you've been trying to solve it with more motivation.Every January, every Monday, every "this time is different," the same pattern repeats: a burst of inspired effort, a few good days, then collapse the moment life gets hard. You conclude you're lazy, or weak, or simply not built for consistency. You're wrong. The problem was never your willpower. It was your reliance on a fuel that was never designed to last.Don't Negotiate With Yourself makes the case, plainly and without easy promises, that lasting change has nothing to do with finding the right mindset and everything to do with building the right system - one that works on the days you don't want it to.Inside, you'll learn how to: - Stop waiting for motivation and start building a system that doesn't need it- Spot the handful of disguises self-deception wears so procrastination doesn't have to be recognized as procrastination- Redesign your environment so willpower stops being the only thing standing between you and the habit- Define a non-negotiable minimum so small it's nearly impossible to skip- Apply the rule that gives this book its title: stop opening a negotiation with yourself every time the moment to act arrives- Design days that protect what matters before the day fills itself up with what's merely urgent- Recover fast and without drama after a bad day or a relapse, instead of letting one slip become a full collapse- Sustain a system for months and years, through the plateaus where nothing seems to be happening even though everything isDrawing on behavioral psychology, decision science, and a wide range of historical figures - Hernán Cortés burning his ships, Shackleton keeping his crew alive in the Antarctic ice, Darwin's quiet daily walks, James Baldwin's forty dollars and a one-way ticket to Paris - the book builds, chapter by chapter, a complete architecture for doing what you said you'd do, even when you don't want to.This book is for you if: - You've built and abandoned more plans than you can count- You already know what to do and simply don't do it- You're tired of advice that only works on your best days- You want a system, not another pep talkDon't Negotiate With Yourself is the first title in The Rebuild Series.